A man can have a million reasons to not go after you. He can tell you anything you might want to hear to make you feel better about him giving up on you. He might even be lying to you by telling you that it's just beyond his control and that the circumstances of the situation are what are preventing him from really going after you. And he's only doing this because he doesn't want you to get hurt; he's trying to shield you from the harsh realities of the truth; and the truth is that he just doesn't like you enough to actually make an effort. He's not so interested in you to the point that he's willing to face the challenges that come with your relationship. He might tell you that he's just swamped with work and the he has so many other things going on in his life. He might be telling you that he's just not emotionally ready to be in a relationship with anyone; but deep down inside, you know the truth. It's not that he's not ready to be in a relationship; it's just that he doesn't want to be in a relationship - with you in particular. And that's the realness of the situation. That's the reality of things.
Yes, he can be very charming and alluring. He can be very endearing and attractive. He can be doing all of the right thing to make your heart melt. He is a rue gentleman in the classic sense of the word. And yet, he doesn't really stay consistent. He sends you a lot of mixed messages. There are times where he actually treats you like you're the only woman in the world. And then there are stretches wherein he acts like he doesn't even know you. This kind of inconsistency is very telling of how he truly feels about you. And you really need to take note of it. If a man is truly into you, he wouldn't be inconsistent. He wouldn't just be showing up when it's convenient to do so. If a man is truly into you, he would be there EVERY SINGLE TIME. He wouldn't let anything stop him from being consistent with you. He would be stable and strong. He would really be a guy you can sink your teeth into and trust. He can really be a guy you can rely on. IF a man is truly into you, you would know it; because he would never make it seem otherwise.